Therapy on Your Terms

I exclusively offer online therapy and education on a multitude of martial and sexual health issues, affecting both women, men and couples.  Sex is one of the deepest and most powerful experiences a couple shares, yet it can also cause anxiety, distress and shame when it does not come as naturally as we would like it to. Many of us have been socialized to feel uncomfortable with the topic of sex, even when discussing it with our spouse or even physician. Please know that you are not forever trapped in these feelings. I have 16 years of experience in counseling couples through relationship struggles, in life as well as the bedroom.

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I am a sex therapist certified with AASECT, the American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors and Therapists, a rigorous certification for Sex Therapy (https://www.aasect.org/).   With extensive training and experience, I offer individuals or couples an opportunity to talk through their thoughts and kinks in a safe, non-judgmental space. I work collaboratively with clients, directly addressing the issues that are causing distress, while sharing information and suggestions based on current research in the field of Sexual Health.  With extensive training in Sexual Health and in Sex Therapy, this is very different than providers speaking from personal experience. 

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My patients’ comfort level around sex varies a great deal. I work with many patients with low desire who struggle seeing themselves or their partners as sexual people. Sex can carry so much anxiety, it can create a negative visceral reaction.   I help others navigate the road of negotiating kink or an open/poly relationship. I help my patients wade through marital discord, lack of communication and power struggles that led to what sometimes feels life constant marital conflict.  I work with people who have desire discrepancies and out of control sexual behaviors, along with those who have painful sex, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, orgasm difficulties and many other issues.   I work with heterosexual, LGBTQIA, monogamous and consensual non-monogamous clients, and at times, also their significant others or spouses, to see how all parties can better support one another. While I start where the client is, we often end up touching on concepts of empathy, understanding, open-mindedness and mutual respect, as these can be a concern both in the bedroom and in the relationship.  However, we will not assume that if we just work on the communication within the relationship, the sex will fall into place.  We don’t cover one area at the expense of all others, although I do allow the client to lead the specific therapeutic direction. Sometimes the client’s goal is integrating, incorporating and growing both components (emotional and physical) of intimacy into the relationship.  Everyone’s situation is different and I don’t presume people all come into therapy with the same goals.